Sharing each other’s presence with the one you love shares a sense of love and togetherness to me. That sense that you cannot actually believe what is happening because it seems impossible to be with the person you have longed to be with for so long. It’s when you’ve had a long day and you just need some rest. No phone calls, no texts, no conversations just someone to hug and be next to. Someone you can hold hands with, put your head on their chest and just slowly drift off to sleep. You know what I mean? The kind of lets fall asleep on the phone because you sound so beautiful when you’re sleeping. I love that intimate silence, the one that happens when two people simply loose themselves by looking at each other, and holding each other.
The type of silence that only gets broken with a kiss or with a “Babe I love you, I thank god for you everyday.” People in relationships, commitments, they forget the importance of the basics. They fall into a routine and they forget the reason why they love that person in the first place. They get stuck on just one thing, like sex, or kissing, or arguing, or being with each other when it’s convenient. Then when those things fall apart or they don’t happen anymore, they wonder where all of the love went. Remember to bring it back to the start, when things feel to familiar, act like you’re dating all over again. Never forget the foundation in which love in instilled. I believe loving someone is as a basic as it can be. It’s being with each other, not having to share a word, but still knowing and feeling how one another feels.
What makes laughter such an important ingredient in building a healthy relationship you ask? Well I believe laughter reinforces the sense of connection between you and your partner. Do you ever notice how easily you warm up to somebody after sharing a laugh or two with that person? That is because when you share a laugh with someone, you’re connecting with them. I love how you can help in easing the stress and tension in each other by making people laugh. In this way, they may be able to see the situation in a different light and find ways to cope with the it. If that other person is your love, the shared laughter adds a layer of intimacy in your relationship, a layer of closeness. Laughter creates a positive emotional climate between you and your partner.
I believe laughter can be an ice breaker as well. Laughter can help you overcome some of your relationship problems. If you’re having relationship problems, a shared laughter from a joke can ease the pain and the anxiety, it can lead to the two of you talking again. Laughter makes you attractive to your partner. When you laugh, your face glows and your eyes shine. Even if you do not feel attractive or sexy at all, your partner will find you very desirable when you laugh, that will be cute to them. Men like women who laugh easily in their presence, while women prefer a man who can take it when his girlfriend laughs at him you know? Laughter is indeed the best medicine, for any relationship. If you want to enjoy a healthy relationship, then you should share a laugh with your loved one as often as you can.
I forgot to say out loud. How beautiful you really are to me.
I think that sometimes people forget why they are in love. Sometimes people tend to look past that feeling and see something else. And sometimes people don’t ever take notice of how significant it is.
Love. Just four letters yet behind close doors, it holds so much more. It holds the feeling of rush, the feeling of hurt, the feeling of jealousy, and even the feeling of solitude.
Love is something that you should always grasp a strong hold of. Something that should always be significant. It should always be present and never past tense. It should be the initial link between two hearts and it should be the center of all feelings.
It is the master of all emotions. Hurts doesn’t it? Yeah.
"I don’t know how you’re gonna go in your next relationship, you’re scared of commitment."
You were right. I was scared of commitment. I was scared of the whole seriousness within a relationship. I was scared of having those fights that lead to sleepless nights and dreadful mornings.
Even now I am still heck scared even though I have such a wonderful guy in my life. Even when I’m with him, my heart at times still feels a sense of insecurity. I believe I still have a bit of commitment issues, and I won’t ever open up until I feel entirely comfortable. Although half of me am still afraid about the serious side of a relationship, the other half is willing to give all I have to my guy.
I was scared of commitment. I was scared of getting into the serious, comfortable stage. You have no idea how scared I was after being brutally abused emotionally by the first guy who I gave my entire heart to. I felt like I wasn’t able to commit ever again. Even with you, I couldn’t entirely be myself. I was still hooked onto the fact that we were going to get into the serious stage. And man, was I scared. I had to get out. And that’s what I did. I got out, and I made excuses along the way and I abused your trust and played with your heart.
But you know what? Now that I think about it, I realised that it wasn’t the commitment that I was afraid of. It was the fact that I couldn’t see a future with you. Not once was I able to think about the future while I was with you. I tried… but there was never a complete image.
It wasn’t my commitment issues that held me back from moving on further with you. It was the fact that I felt like I wouldn’t be able to love you for the rest of my life. I felt like I wasn’t able to give you my whole, even though at times I lied to myself that I could and forced myself to.
And when I left you, I thought that I would never find a guy that was willing to put up with all my shit, and my overdue battered heart. I thought that I wouldn’t find a guy that would make me laugh, and give me crazy butterflies I once had three and a half years ago. And again, I told myself that it was my commitment issues that would force me to run away from him.
But this is different. I didn’t think I’d give in to him. No. I thought I’d never find a guy that would make me laugh, make me cry and make me angry all at the same time and yet reminding me that he still loves me (in the strangest way as well).
I have to admit; at first the thought of committing to this guy scared the shit out of me. The thought of having to settle down with him and opening up to him made me feel uncomfortable. But I told myself to give it a shot. Give him a shot. Give us a shot. And I did just that. And slowly the days past… weeks past… months past… I grew fond of this guy. I forgot about my relationship insecurities and I forgot about everyone else that hurt me. He stood in front of all my insecurities, my flaws and all the other guys that I said “I love you” to.
I love him. And I never felt so much joy in telling someone that I do. He’s the first ever guy that I can actually imagine an entire future with. I can imagine myself waking up in the morning and cooking him breakfast, making him lunch and preparing dinner for him when he comes back from work. I can imagine myself fixing his tie and kissing him goodbye and telling him to have a wonderful day at work. I can imagine us having kids, him teaching our kids how to do things and laughing with them. I can imagine us sitting at the dinner table, laughing and talking about our days and talking about ridiculous things. I can imagine us fifty years from now at our child’s wedding and reminiscing on the day that we got married.
So yeah. Back to my commitment issues.
I am still scared. But he makes me forget when I’m with him.
And even though there will be times when we won’t be okay, I’m willing to go that extra mile, further than I’ve ever gone for anyone else just to keep us okay.
We’re always going to be okay.
I wasn’t committed to you because I can’t imagine a future with you. But him, I can imagine being with him every single day for the rest of my life.
“Let me put it this way, if Paris and NY were men, Paris would be more like the romantic guy that opens the door for you before you get into a car, you know, that guy who is so charming and perfect in every way, the safe bet, he almost seems too perfect. New York, however, would be the guy that just comes and sweeps you off your feet, that guy who takes your breath away, literally. The one you meet and almost instantly fall in love with, the one who is very difficult to trust but even more difficult to forget, that is New York. So let me ask you something, who would you take, Paris or New York?”—Andy Torres (via obliteratedheart)
I hope you had one too. :) Do you remember this advice that you gave me? [myurl]/post/2105855483 (Links are not allowed in questions) I'm going to say something stupid right now, but everytime I get my heart broken (it always happens), I look back on this advice you give me, and somehow, I don't feel alone, insecure or deprived of happiness. I just want to say, thank you for this advice. It somehow lessens the hurt and pain I feel whenever I'm broken.I hope you don't mind. :)
Wow. Tbh I don’t remember. My apologies. I used to Tumblr and talk to so many people that I don’t remember everyone that I talked to. That’s not to say that you’re not important or anything! I hope that you’ve stopped feeling sad since the last time we spoke because by the look of that post, it seems like you were in such a sad state. And I seemed like I was too by the look of my reply and talking about my ex. Haha, well I have good news! I’m now in a relationship with the best guy in the world and we’ve been together for nearly 2 years now! (I can’t believe how long ago that was that I gave you that message because it has been about 3 years since I broke up with my ex!) Time flies… and things change. I hope there’s good news on your end! Tell me all about it. :D And I’m always here to talk to if you need someone. :)
Thank god my bestfriend and I don’t like similar things…Well, some things.
I’m glad that we don’t like the same food, movie genres, hobbies, colour, number, animal. I’m glad that we don’t have the same ideas, thoughts, strengths, weaknesses, goals, opinions, list of priorities, important aspects in life.
I’m glad we dont have those things because that is what makes us, us; and we get to learn and understand other perspectives at different angles in various situations. It also gives us an opportunity to tell the other person that they are wrong in some situations and that they need to open their eyes a little bit more.
These factors show that we are not the same, and that we are not those ‘BFFs’ who has the same hobbies and go crazy over what they both like and enjoy, and go out together all the time to thread beads onto a fishline to make a bracelet…
I’m glad that we don’t have to compete with eachother to get what we want. Sinply because we don’t want the same things.
But there are a few things that we both like, and these are the things that keep us on the same page at the same time.
I’m glad we like the same music because we know that music saves us. I’m glad we like Greys Anatomy and Cougar Town because it feels as though we’re watching ourselves. I’m glad we imagine our future to consist of A LOT of kids, play-dates, and family-game-nights. And I’m glad we have the same sense of humour because we all know that THAT is what keeps the ball rolling.
We are the same yet so different and that makes me so glad.
“To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of Biblical advice: ” Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz.” While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, don’t settle for any of his relatives: Broke-az, Po-az, Lyin-az, Cheating-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Cheap-az, Lockedup-az, Goodfornothing-az, Lazy-az, and especially his third cousin Beatinyo-az. Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yoaz.”—