lofticries

Sharing each other’s presence with the one you love shares a sense of love and togetherness to me. That sense that you cannot actually believe what is happening because it seems impossible to be with the person you have longed to be with for so long. It’s when you’ve had a long day and you just need some rest. No phone calls, no texts, no conversations just someone to hug and be next to. Someone you can hold hands with, put your head on their chest and just slowly drift off to sleep. You know what I mean? The kind of lets fall asleep on the phone because you sound so beautiful when you’re sleeping. I love that intimate silence, the one that happens when two people simply loose themselves by looking at each other, and holding each other.

The type of silence that only gets broken with a kiss or with a “Babe I love you, I thank god for you everyday.” People in relationships, commitments, they forget the importance of the basics. They fall into a routine and they forget the reason why they love that person in the first place. They get stuck on just one thing, like sex, or kissing, or arguing, or being with each other when it’s convenient. Then when those things fall apart or they don’t happen anymore, they wonder where all of the love went. Remember to bring it back to the start, when things feel to familiar, act like you’re dating all over again. Never forget the foundation in which love in instilled. I believe loving someone is as a basic as it can be. It’s being with each other, not having to share a word, but still knowing and feeling how one another feels.

What makes laughter such an important ingredient in building a healthy relationship you ask? Well I believe laughter reinforces the sense of connection between you and your partner. Do you ever notice how easily you warm up to somebody after sharing a laugh or two with that person? That is because when you share a laugh with someone, you’re connecting with them. I love how you can help in easing the stress and tension in each other by making people laugh. In this way, they may be able to see the situation in a different light and find ways to cope with the it. If that other person is your love, the shared laughter adds a layer of intimacy in your relationship, a layer of closeness. Laughter creates a positive emotional climate between you and your partner. 

I believe laughter can be an ice breaker as well. Laughter can help you overcome some of your relationship problems. If you’re having relationship problems, a shared laughter from a joke can ease the pain and the anxiety, it can lead to the two of you talking again. Laughter makes you attractive to your partner. When you laugh, your face glows and your eyes shine. Even if you do not feel attractive or sexy at all, your partner will find you very desirable when you laugh, that will be cute to them. Men like women who laugh easily in their presence, while women prefer a man who can take it when his girlfriend laughs at him you know? Laughter is indeed the best medicine, for any relationship. If you want to enjoy a healthy relationship, then you should share a laugh with your loved one as often as you can.

1. True wisdom and insight is always free.

2. Give your power over to no one.

3. Going into the unknown is how you expand what is known.

4. Get a library card.

5. Spend more time around people that both challenge and respect you.

6. Remain skeptical forever.

7. Fight for what matters.

8. There is a method that works. Find it.

9. Join a movement.

10. Drink your coffee black.

11. Never let anyone photoshop a picture of you. It creates a false sense of self-confidence.

12. Read more. Especially things you disagree with.

13. Get used to feeling stupid. It’s a sign of growth.

14. It’s easy for people to talk a good game, so watch how they behave instead.

15. Learn something from everyone.

16. Find things that inspire you and pursue them, even if there’s no money in it.

17. Starve if you have to, for as long as you need to.

18. Survive on a little just to prove you can do it.

19. Get one big success at an early age. It’ll help build your confidence for bigger things.

20. Do what you say you’ll do. No one is reliable anymore.

21. Be comfortable with abandonment, even of parts of your identity.

22. Learn a new language. 23. Eat more protein.

24. Keep people around you that will tell you the truth.

25. Genius gets you nowhere. Execution is everything.

26. If given the choice of equity or cash, always take cash.

27. Meet new people as often as possible. Offer to help them.

28. Don’t discriminate. Connect anyone in your network to anyone else.

29. If you can’t do a pull-up, you have a problem. 30. Nobody likes a know-it-all.

31. Get a passport. Fill it up with stamps no one has ever seen.

32. Quit your horrible job.

33. Read biographies. It’s like having access to the best mentors in history.

34. Go to bed, and wake up, early. No one will bother you, letting your best work emerge.

35. Scare yourself a little bit every day. It will expand your inner map.

36. Learn to climb trees.

37. Don’t buy a lot of stuff, and only buy the stuff you really love.

38. Be humble and curious.

39. Twitter followers don’t keep you warm at night.

40. Be as useful as you can in as many circumstances as possible.

41. Show up.

42. Repeat people’s names when you meet them.

43. Turn internet access off your phone. Wifi is fine.

44. Get a deck of Oblique Strategies cards. Use them.

45. Make your home a place where you feel safe.

46. Take people up on bets. Make more bets yourself.

47. Take cold showers. They’re better than coffee.

48. Learn to enjoy hunger.

49. Make everything either shorter, or longer, than it needs to be.

50. Always remember those who helped you. Deliver two or three times as much value back.

51. But also, help people who have never helped you, and can’t.

52. When you know that pain is temporary, it affects all of your decisions.

53. Get a tattoo. Don’t worry about regret.

54. Commit to things, regularly, that are far beyond your ability.

55. Meet with friends more often than you think you have to.

56. Learn to meditate. Go on a retreat if you have to.

57. Your stories are both more and less interesting than you think.

58. Learn to really listen.

59. Walk more.

60. Ugly is just a step on the way to beautiful. 61. Get to know your neighbours. 62. Don’t take anything personally, ever.

63. Consider avoiding school. Go to lots of conferences instead.

64. As soon as you can, buy some art.

65. Apologize more than you need to.

66. Find out if there will be food there.

67. A good haircut changes everything.

68. Read Man’s Search For Meaning.

69. Say no to projects you don’t care about.

70. Do things that are uncool. Later on, they usually end up becoming cool anyway.

71. Find your voice.

72. Have some manners.

73. Learn to play chess, go, and bridge. They’ll keep you from going senile.

74. Learn about the Tetrapharmakos.

75. Find ways to cheat the system– just don’t cheat people.

76. Be like Jesus, not like his followers. (This applies to all of them.)

77. At least once, date someone that’s out of your league.

78. Examine your jealousy. You’ll learn a lot about yourself.

79. Good connections are about people, not social networks.

80. Address small problems. They will become big problems.

81. Dress like a cooler version of yourself.

82. Yes, there is such a thing as bad press.

83. Add “adventurer” to your Twitter bio. Then, become one.

84. If the internet is the best thing in your life, you have a serious problem.

85. Give away your best work for free.

86. Find mentors. Just don’t call them that.

87. Actually write on your blog. Nobody cares if it’s hard.

88. Download Freedom. Use it for an hour every day.

89. Join a gym. Lift the heaviest you can. (This applies to girls too.)

90. Do some freewriting. It helps you think things through.

91. When you’re having supper with rich people, pick up the cheque.

92. Learn how to speak in public.

93. If you see someone who needs help, stop asking yourself if they need help. Instead, just help.

94. Bring a bottle of wine.

95. The best conversations are had side by side, not one in front of the other.

96. Protect your hearing. Trust me.

97. Do what’s most important first thing in the morning, before you check email.

98. Everyone feels like they’re not good enough. It’s not just you.

99. Courage is a learned skill.

100. Go to Iceland. It’s worth it.

Written by Julien (http://inoveryourhead.net/) 

I think that sometimes people forget why they are in love. Sometimes people tend to look past that feeling and see something else. And sometimes people don’t ever take notice of how significant it is.

Love. Just four letters yet behind close doors, it holds so much more. It holds the feeling of rush, the feeling of hurt, the feeling of jealousy, and even the feeling of solitude.

Love is something that you should always grasp a strong hold of. Something that should always be significant. It should always be present and never past tense. It should be the initial link between two hearts and it should be the center of all feelings.

It is the master of all emotions.
Hurts doesn’t it?
Yeah.

You were right. I was scared of commitment. I was scared of the whole seriousness within a relationship. I was scared of having those fights that lead to sleepless nights and dreadful mornings.

Even now I am still heck scared even though I have such a wonderful guy in my life. Even when I’m with him, my heart at times still feels a sense of insecurity. I believe I still have a bit of commitment issues, and I won’t ever open up until I feel entirely comfortable. Although half of me am still afraid about the serious side of a relationship, the other half is willing to give all I have to my guy.

I was scared of commitment. I was scared of getting into the serious, comfortable stage. You have no idea how scared I was after being brutally abused emotionally by the first guy who I gave my entire heart to. I felt like I wasn’t able to commit ever again. Even with you, I couldn’t entirely be myself. I was still hooked onto the fact that we were going to get into the serious stage. And man, was I scared. I had to get out. And that’s what I did. I got out, and I made excuses along the way and I abused your trust and played with your heart.

But you know what? Now that I think about it, I realised that it wasn’t the commitment that I was afraid of. It was the fact that I couldn’t see a future with you. Not once was I able to think about the future while I was with you. I tried… but there was never a complete image.

It wasn’t my commitment issues that held me back from moving on further with you. It was the fact that I felt like I wouldn’t be able to love you for the rest of my life. I felt like I wasn’t able to give you my whole, even though at times I lied to myself that I could and forced myself to.

And when I left you, I thought that I would never find a guy that was willing to put up with all my shit, and my overdue battered heart. I thought that I wouldn’t find a guy that would make me laugh, and give me crazy butterflies I once had three and a half years ago. And again, I told myself that it was my commitment issues that would force me to run away from him.

But this is different. I didn’t think I’d give in to him. No. I thought I’d never find a guy that would make me laugh, make me cry and make me angry all at the same time and yet reminding me that he still loves me (in the strangest way as well).

I have to admit; at first the thought of committing to this guy scared the shit out of me. The thought of having to settle down with him and opening up to him made me feel uncomfortable. But I told myself to give it a shot. Give him a shot. Give us a shot. And I did just that. And slowly the days past… weeks past… months past… I grew fond of this guy. I forgot about my relationship insecurities and I forgot about everyone else that hurt me. He stood in front of all my insecurities, my flaws and all the other guys that I said “I love you” to.

I love him. And I never felt so much joy in telling someone that I do. He’s the first ever guy that I can actually imagine an entire future with. I can imagine myself waking up in the morning and cooking him breakfast, making him lunch and preparing dinner for him when he comes back from work. I can imagine myself fixing his tie and kissing him goodbye and telling him to have a wonderful day at work. I can imagine us having kids, him teaching our kids how to do things and laughing with them. I can imagine us sitting at the dinner table, laughing and talking about our days and talking about ridiculous things. I can imagine us fifty years from now at our child’s wedding and reminiscing on the day that we got married.

So yeah. Back to my commitment issues.

I am still scared. But he makes me forget when I’m with him.

And even though there will be times when we won’t be okay, I’m willing to go that extra mile, further than I’ve ever gone for anyone else just to keep us okay.

We’re always going to be okay.

I wasn’t committed to you because I can’t imagine a future with you. But him, I can imagine being with him every single day for the rest of my life.

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Thank god my bestfriend and I don’t like similar things…Well, some things.

I’m glad that we don’t like the same food, movie genres, hobbies, colour, number, animal. I’m glad that we don’t have the same ideas, thoughts, strengths, weaknesses, goals, opinions, list of priorities, important aspects in life.

I’m glad we dont have those things because that is what makes us, us; and we get to learn and understand other perspectives at different angles in various situations. It also gives us an opportunity to tell the other person that they are wrong in some situations and that they need to open their eyes a little bit more.

These factors show that we are not the same, and that we are not those ‘BFFs’ who has the same hobbies and go crazy over what they both like and enjoy, and go out together all the time to thread beads onto a fishline to make a bracelet…

I’m glad that we don’t have to compete with eachother to get what we want. Sinply because we don’t want the same things.

But there are a few things that we both like, and these are the things that keep us on the same page at the same time.

I’m glad we like the same music because we know that music saves us. I’m glad we like Greys Anatomy and Cougar Town because it feels as though we’re watching ourselves. I’m glad we imagine our future to consist of A LOT of kids, play-dates, and family-game-nights. And I’m glad we have the same sense of humour because we all know that THAT is what keeps the ball rolling.

We are the same yet so different and that makes me so glad.