There is definitely no reason to front that at times we catch ourselves getting real tempted to check out that “pretty girl’s” profile. Her twitter and Facebook are just a handful of keyboard letters away, and in actuality, a “click of a mouse” too close. She’s not just a pretty girl though. She’s someone specific, and most likely someone even more insignificant. She’s a different girl to all of us. To a majority, she’s more of that pretty girl you see at the same parties, but will never seem to exchange a smile for yours. To most, she’s that girl that all your guy friends seem to like, while you sit back and shrug because let’s be real, other than her “easy ways”, you just don’t see it. And fuck it, to some, she’s that pretty girl your now ex-boyfriend hooked up with while you two were on a break. Ohh…and don’t forget that this girl we’re talking about…she’s really nice too.
Ladies, you know I know we all know what I’m talking about.
This is something that no one but us will understand. It’s not like you’re some catty bitch that thinks this way of every female you come across, NO - it’s just that specific girl, who in ways we’ve just described shows to be more insignificant than anything, but we tend to overlook the latter making her seem otherwise. You’re not a hater, no. Is she? Probably not. There’s just, however, that unspoken controversy that won’t seem to ever “settle” for the fact that, hey, you just have too much pride. No biggy.
So you’re at home thinking of something witty to say under 140 characters. Tweet. You do your thing and check your timeline and while doing so, you see her around. After forgetting she even existed, there she is, retweeted by one of your friends. You roll your eyes, but see her avatar and think, “damn, she’s real pretty.” Even though you don’t follow her, you click on her link. It’s private. Instead, you click the link to her blog, scroll up and down a few pages, look at her pictures, and damn - you’re clearly just fuckin’ up because if she’s seeming interesting to you for all the wrong reasons then…
…let’s take another look.
You’re sweet. You’re beautiful. God…you’re gorgeous. And to a lot of girls, you’re probably that girl too. But the girl you’re not is the one who gets caught up with comparing herself to other females to only find that all she’s doing is losing a battle between no one but herself. Now you, love…you are NOT that girl. So if you already know what you could be getting yourself into by clicking on that “pretty girl’s” profile, just STOP. You’re better than that.
And if you ever catch yourself in this situation again, which you most likely will…honey, just pause. Think about it. Laugh and do a little SMH, then be your own bestfriend and tell yourself…
“GIRL…DON’T DO IT.”
You’ll walk away feeling
goodgreat. Good on you, love. You deserve it.