People are always saying “Don’t throw the word love around.” Blah blah. I don’t think people throw it around. I believe they say it because they feel it. I definitely do. There’s no stages of love. It’s never too early or too late to love. I say it alot. I throw it around heaps, and probably faster than you could ever run. Although the meaning behind the word differ to people I speak to.
I’m not a reckless person, I just like to show my affection in many ways than one. Bite me if you must.
“You’re a jerk, an asshole and immature. you don’t make sense and sometimes I just want to strangle you. but on top of that, I just want to let you know that you’re my everything. One of these days you’ll realize that I was the one for you. How you threw it all away. And when that day comes I’ll smile and tell you the same things you once told me: That you’re my friend, and that’s all I want us to be. And maybe, if you’re lucky.. You’ll open your eyes and see how those words can never be comforting. And you’ll never say them again.”—
“Some people, they can just move on, you know, mourn and cry and be done with it. Or at least seem to be. But for me, I don’t know. I didn’t want to fix it, to forget. It wasn’t something that was broken. It’s just something that happened. And I’m just finding ways, every day, of working around it. Respecting and remembering and getting on at the same time.”—Sarah Dessen (The Truth About Forever) (via idareyoutoclickthis)
“Along the way, I’ve learned that you can’t let anyone in too far and you can’t trust endlessly. The biggest mistake you can make is to care or love someone more than yourself, because then you are just setting yourself up for disappointment. Boundaries are necessary so that you can protect yourself, because once you’re broken, you’ll never be fully fixed.”—(via idareyoutoclickthis)
“We’re teenagers. We’re still learning. Shit happens. We cheat, we lie, we criticise, we fight over stupid things. We fall in love and end up getting hurt. We bitch, bitch, BITCH. We bitch about bitches being bitches. We smoke, get high, and get laid. We party till dawn, we drink till we pass out. We hate people for no reason, we call each other names. We stay up late having deep conversations, or stay up late just to THINK. We go out and have a kick ass time with your friends and THOSE WILL BE THE MEMORIES. One day that’s going to all pass. You can waste your time focusing on all the bad things, but one day you’re gonna wish you were still a teenager. So make the most of what you have now, forget all the bullshit and drama and LIVE YOUR FUCKING LIFE WITH A SEXY SMILE ON YOUR FACE.”—
There are just those moments in life where you can’t do anything. Where you are completely helpless. And in those times all you can do is just break down and cry. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Just cry all you want. As much as you want, as loud as you want, let everything out. But after that don’t forget to pick yourself back up and keep fighting. Do not show you are weak in front of your enemies and do not let anything get the better of you.
“Don’t ever let a girl’s efforts for you end in vain. If you love her, take note of the little things she does. When she lets you see her without her makeup, when she brings you your favorite food or drink just because, when she whines softly that she’s cold or that she wants a kiss, when she runs her fingers through your hair. There are probably a million other things she’ll do for you because she loves you, because she wants to, and she will never ask for your acknowledgment of them; but understand that one day she may feel unappreciated, unloved; neglected by your lack of gratitude towards these little things, and may stop. Remember all the reasons why you love her, and remember to appreciate them. You know that saying, you never know what you had until it’s gone. Don’t take her love for granted.”—(via nameshazel)
“I still miss you, but not like I did before. The intense aching I felt isn’t there anymore. I still whisper your name, though not as often as I used to. Now it may be once before the day is through. I still hear your voice replaying in my mind, but it’s fading now. Soon, silence I will find. I still long for you, to feel your touch, but it’s not like before. I don’t dream it as much. I still think about you and wonder how you are, but my feelings have changed and they don’t go as far. I still feel you sometimes. Maybe you’re thinking of me or maybe it’s just a little memory of how it used to be. I still love you but it’s just not as strong because I’m letting you go now, so we can both move on. You still have a piece of my heart because I always feel you here. Now I’m hoping and praying that that, too, will quickly disappear. This will be my last goodbye; I have nothing else to say. Everything I felt for you can now just fade away. All I could think about was that time we stayed up all night talking. You didn’t say that I was wrong or stupid. You didn’t laugh at me when I confessed my wildest dreams. You just listened, and it was then that I knew i wanted to be with you. If I could gather up the nerve, I would put my feelings into words.”—
“Because you don’t deserve it. A second chance, let alone a third, fourth, fifth, sixth. I’m mad and sad, mostly I’m jealous because I wish I’d had as many chances as you’ve been given. Because I know I’d take it seriously. I wouldn’t take advantage of anyone. I wouldn’t lead anyone on. I would try my hardest not to hurt anyone, and that is so much more than I can say for you. I guess you’re just used to getting whatever you want.”—
“I love how your eyes close whenever you kiss me. And when you’re away from me, I love how you miss me. I love the way you always treat me tenderly. But most of all, I love the way that you love me. I love how your heart beats whenever I hold you. I love how you think of me without being told to. I love the way your touch is always heavenly. But most of all, I love how you love me.”—I Love How You Love Me; Bobby Vinton (via idareyoutoclickthis)
“In some ways, you’re pretty lucky. You opened your heart, you put yourself out there, you were ready to make that leap. I’m envious. I wish I knew what that felt like - to find someone who makes you wanna swim the East river in January.”—Ugly Betty (via idareyoutoclickthis)
Sometimes you just feel empty, lonely, insignificant. And it doesn’t matter what you do, no it doesn’t matter how many laps you run, musicals you join, classes you skip or how many pairs of shoes you buy - you still feel like crap. Sometimes i just feel like taking off, selling everything I own and running away to somewhere so distant, running away into the unknown.
You block out everyone. You feel so tired, because you haven’t slept in forever. You know he’ll be in your dreams but you don’t want to stay awake laying in your bed crying either. You’re starving, but you can’t eat because you’re starving for him and every memory just leaves you with a bigger hole in your heart. Even your clothes reminds you of him, what you wore when you hung out. You can still smell them all over him, even though his scent hasn’t been there for long. You wish his scent would be stuck on you, but you know you’d be pulling at your skin trying to get him off you. You’re online, he signs on, and you want to scream at him to go away, but you just watch the screen waiting for him to say anything, but then he signs off, and you tear yourself apart for not saying anything to him. You stop talking to your friends, and they get worried and try comforting you, but they just make you feel worse because they think they know, but they don’t have a damn clue.
“The hurt began to fade and it was easier to just let go. At least I thought it was. But in every boy I met in the next few years, I found myself looking for you, and when the feelings got too strong I’d write you another letter. But I never sent them, in fear of what I might find. By then, you’d gone on with your life and I didn’t want to think about you loving someone else. I wanted to remember us like we were that summer. I didn’t want to ever forget that.”—The Notebook (via idareyoutoclickthis)
I should be trying to memories my lines for drama, but instead I am on here just blogging. Anyway, it’s a Thursday and I’m tired. Thursdays are double periods which makes my life much worse.
I went home in the middle of Bio today. I felt so sleepy, so I went to call up my dad to pick me up and hoping to sleep when I get home. But instead what did I do when I got home? Well, I watched Avatar, the last air bender. I’ve now finished the first chapter, Water. Two more to go… oh! And the movie is coming out. I don’t like how Aang isn’t an asian kid. HE IS CLEARLY SEEN AS “ASIAN” IN THE CARTOON. It’s probably going to blow ass just like how that Dragon Ball-Z movie thing came out. I forgot the name of it, but it was shit anyway.
Lately, I haven’t really been talking to Koala much. Why? Well, because he is ‘forbidden’ to talk to me. Like, for fucks sakes. I’M NOT GOING TO LIKE MAKE OUT WITH HIM OR SOMETHING. But seriously. It’s fucked up. She’s fucked. Literally. She’s pretty fake. Enough about that.
… holidays coming up soon. And oh, today is my two months. It’s so fast! Well, Happy 2 months Dan. :)
I understand that sometimes things may get hard, and sometimes you’d feel as though you have nothing left. Whether you’re suffering from a heart break, family problems or anything in particular. Note that there are so many people who love, and appreciate you so much! Maybe even up to family standards and if you ever left them, they’d be broken.
I know sometimes it feels like you don’t belong in this world, that ‘others’ would be so much happier if you were gone, if you didn’t exist, but that’s not true. Some people may need you in their life more than ever, they’re just afraid to tell you. Thinking about suicide would just hurt everyone around you.
What about your family? Your mum? The woman that fought her battles in the ward, going through all that pain just so her little bundle of joy can come out to this world in peace. The blanket she put over you when you were cold, the love and warmth she gave to you, because as a child we will always need that ‘mother nurture.’ She worked hard to pay the rent, or pay off debts in order to make the family happy, and this may even be to a dad. And if you’re having problems with the family note that they’re only putting you through this pain because they CARE for you, because they want you to stop and realize that what you’re doing, you’re also hurting your family. It’s harder on them than it is on you really. Because if you ever attempt to kill yourself, they will be the one going through that pain, that grief that nobody deserves to go through. Death is an unfortunate thing, and life should not be taken for granted as there are others who long to live the life that you have.
If it’s about a relationship, then don’t waste your time! If the person doesn’t love/like you anymore, then don’t go through that pain just because you didn’t get what you want. They are not worth it! If they left because they couldn’t handle the relationship, then by killing yourself you’re basically handing your life to them, and hello? They obviously don’t deserve it! The good is yet to come, when the worst hasn’t happened yet… So one day, maybe not yet, you’ll find that one person you have always longed and desired for, so don’t stress as we’re all still so young! Enjoy life as it is, and take on the days as they come because after all “What doesn’t kill you, will only make you stronger.”
I know this essay/post isn’t much, but I really just want to get the message out there! Note that there are so many people who love you, so don’t even THINK about wanting to die because life is so much more than that. You’re future has yet to come, and you’ll never know what’ll happen later on if you decided to suicide. It’s a stupid thing. Think about the pain your family will go through…
Even when you feel you’re looking your best, turning heads in every direction, you still feel like something’s missing, that-that something is maybe your smile. Despite the problems from the previous day, the hardships in the past, the struggling times in the present, I always tell myself, I will not leave my house without a smile, even if I had a rough morning. Just leaving all my worries behind, and focus on what’s ahead and the smile on my face? That’s the smile that’s gonna get me through day, the smile that will get me through everything easy & hard, the smile others will love, the smile that tells others that this person is strong, the smile that will wow others when they see how happy I am still in all my accomplishments and failures, the smile that hides all the pain, all the anger bottled up inside, the smile that will possibly change the world one day, yeah that’s the smile. So never, ever forget your smile because you would be forgetting one of the most important things about you.
“He taught me how to trust myself. He taught me to love every flaw. He doesn’t see what i see but I’m starting to believe that what he saw in me is so much better. For that, and for so many other things, i love him.”—(via idareyoutoclickthis)
Does he really know you like I know you, all the little things? Does he really love you, like I love you, how can he compete? If he makes me fight for you, die for you, would he do the same? This is turning into way more than a game.
“Sometimes I really wonder how stupid it would seem to him. How I sit here with my eyes never leaving the screen of my phone waiting for his new text. Or refreshing the screen until it says he’s online. Or how when I miss him I read the things he told me months and months ago. I really wonder what he would say if he knew he meant that much to me.”—(via idareyoutoclickthis)
“There is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of these lovable qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable. The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they’re often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really, want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else.”—(via idareyoutoclickthis)
There comes a time in life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy.
“Stop talking about love. Every asshole in the world says he loves somebody. It means nothing. It still doesn’t mean anything. What you feel only matters to you. It’s what you do to the people you say you love, that’s what matters. It’s the only thing that counts.”—The Last Kiss (2006) | Submitted by : keep-doin-it-wrong (via quote-book)
“Being together is more than making out. It’s about understanding the other person. Being there for them, talking for hours; making each others’ dreams come true, being in love and not needing anything to keep it worthwhile.”—(via idareyoutoclickthis)
“No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater. The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.”—Sarah Dessen (via idareyoutoclickthis)
The Anatomy of Love: Love has the most diverse meanings of all words. It is hard to have a consistent definition of the word love due to the complexity of the feelings involved. The emotions represents a range of experiences on affection and attraction. There can be deep interpersonal bonding or innocent non-romantic love relationships. It is applied in different contexts therefore different meanings. In most of the times the anatomy of love constitutes of intimacy, attachment and care. This is done subconsciously without any effort. It is not easy to describe what love is and therefore most of the time we find it easier to say what is not love. The natural non-sexual love is mostly opposed to hate while the romantic version of it is opposed to lust.
Unrequited love is the interpersonal bonding which is not reciprocated. It makes it hard for the victim to understand the anatomy of love. It is very discouraging to love someone who does not return your feelings. Love is a natural urge likened to hunger or thirst. The romantic love is actually in different stages the first one being lust. It exposes one human being to another through sexual passion and it attracts two people together. It is through attraction that people are able to direct their energy and focus to intimacy. The attraction is the idea that results to the attachment which is the end result of interpersonal love. Attachment breeds tolerance, forgiveness, and the spirit of sharing responsibilities and resources. If there was no attachment, people would be engaging in marriage and leaving as they please. Where there is love there must be attachment in order to maintain relationships.
According to the anatomy of love, lust as a part of love is mammalian passionate drive that encourage two people two mate. Lust involves the release of hormones testosterone and estrogen which gives people the drive to mate. Unfortunately, these hormones do not circulate in the body for more than a period of two weeks. Attraction is more consistent and leads to commitment to romantic desire. According to a study in neuroscience when people fall in love, a group of hormones is released from the brain. These hormones are dopamine, norepinephrine and also serotonin. They triggers the pleasure point in the brain which in turn leads to loss of appetite, insomnia and high heart beat rate. If you are experiencing such excitement you can be sure it will last up to a period of three years.
The first two stages to the anatomy of love are said to be temporary. Lust and attraction can last as short as for three months but a relationship is supposed to carry on for longer than that. This is why the third stage of attachment is important. The natural bonding promotes a long-term relationship. The couples are tied together by children and marriage. The shared interests help the couples to be easily bonded. In such long-term commitments the levels of hormone aspersing and oxytocin are higher compared to those releases in the lust and attraction stages. Another discovery done at Pavia university revealed that a certain protein molecule referred to as nerve growth factor is in skyrocketing levels when two individuals first fall in love. Sadly the levels drops drastically after a year.
“Inertia is so easy - don’t fix what’s not broken. Leave well enough alone. So we end up accepting what is broken, mistaking complaining for action, procrastinating for deliberation.”—Justina Chen Headley, North of Beautiful | Submitted by NTE (via quote-book)