I would tell my mom that every oceans in this world are hers and the deepest one is how much I love her.
I would tell my brother that every single tree are his and the tallest that he could never reach is how much i heart him. But he might fall bit cos that’s how annoying he is.
I would tell my cousin that all the rabbits are her’s. And they will never stop hopping like a bitch cos every single hop is how much she means to me but that’s not it yet. there’s more.
I would tell all my friends that all the fruits are theirs and even the rotten ones because that’s how true friends are. Through the good and the bad, we’ll still have each other.
I would tell all the stuck up bitches that the flies and mosquitoes are theirs because they shouldn’t exist in this world. They don’t do us shit but just to annoy us and we just want to slap them silly!
I would tell all the guys that I am the beautiful skies, morning sunshine, the stars at night, the river that sparkles because I would cherish one, love one to the fullest and just always be there for one.
I simply can’t forget the things people have done to me, nor can I forgive those who never stepped up to my face as a woman (since the only people who has fucked me over would be the owners of a vagina), and apologized. The thing that people don’t know is that I am fully aware of everything that goes on around me. I hear the things people have said and continue to say but I maintain my composure because there is no need to react. It’s not even worth my time. We could click like best friends, have the times of our lives, I will pick you up when you’re in the dirt, and care, but at the end of the day, I still don’t trust you. You’re still nothing to me. Second chances come. Easily. But when there is a second, there will be a third, a fourth, and a hundred that follows. I’ve confronted so many females that I’ve learned to just keep it to myself. Their excuses, lies, and twisted tongues reek of scandalousness. How many times do I have to tell you that you can’t possibly lie to me and get away with it? Don’t take my silence for weakness or stupidity, ladies. When I say everything, I mean e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g. Down to the little remarks made behind my back, the whispering of lies from ear to ear, and the glares that were sent when I turned my cheek. It’s truly a shame, because I can stand before any face and state that I have been nothing but a loyal friend. I don’t scheme, I don’t lie, I don’t have intentions of competing, nor shall I ever do a person wrong. I might have reasons, but I lack the will. I’ve been able to keep the rage to a minimum. However, we all have limits. Don’t test mine.
I don’t chase people up and down again after once you have decided to drift away from me. If you’re going to put me as a second priority, then you can stick to your first. I am not a rebound cardboard stand that you would just get nearer to when you want and let out your thoughts and feelings on when you’re having problems with your better option.
If you chose to ignore me, disrespect me and treat me like nothing when you find better options, then learn to stick to them. Don’t come to me crying about your problems about your friends whom you have replaced me with. Go to them, since they were better enough to replace me in the first place.
“You can’t go to Paris unless you’re madly in love with the person who is taking you. And not just the type of love where you tell one another that you can’t live without each other… but that type that is undying — the type that is unconditional. You know the type that can withstand anything.”—Welcome To The Underworld
And this is me talking about real relationships - don’t get offended, just keep reading.
Here’s my first bubble burster - not all relationships that start off completely perfect, lovey dovey and happily ever after-ish end up that way. The reason why is that there’s a major difference between being in love and real love. I’m not saying that being in love is bad. I guess it’s the first spark you need to get a relationship going. But at the same time… Being in love just kind of makes us… well blind. At its peak… The in-love experience is euphoric… Almost like a drug. We are emotionally obsessed with each other. We go to sleep with them being the last things on our minds… We dream about them… Then wake up with them being our first thoughts… We smile endlessly and for no reason when we think about them while everyone else starts to believe we’re becoming borderline psychopaths because of all the constant grinning. When we hold hands it’s as if our blood flows together and we’d be forever kissing if we didn’t have to go to school or work. When we’re in love, we can’t see each others flaws because we have the illusion that our partner is perfect. Our best friends and family on the other hand could point out a million different things about our partners but we’d just refuse to listen. Again, I’m not saying that what our friends say is always true… I’m just stating a reality of what would usually happen. What goes through a person’s and their partner’s head usually goes something like this - “for as long as we’re together, we’re going to make each other extremely happy… Other couples may argue and fight… But we won’t. We love each other too much… If we ever come across something that tries to make us argue, one of us will give in and we’ll sort it out easily”. Apart from this, it’s kind of hard to believe anything else when you’re in love. At this point, we are made to believe that we will last forever and we will always have the wonderful things that we have now and that nothing could ever come between us.
Unfortunately, the idea that the in love experience has an ending is a fact, not fiction, which is another bubble bursting bummer. I remember reading an article about a psychologist called dr. Dorothy Tennov who conducted studies on a large number of couples and concluded that the average lifespan of a couple to stay in the in love romantic obsession phase is 2 years. After that, we all stop floating on air and start to stand on our feet again. Our eyes are opened and we see our partners for who they are as people… Instead of wonderful majestic beings. Their “quirks” are now dead set annoying and we realise that they have a capacity for hurt and anger, and may even say the rudest most… Biggest beep-hole words we’ve ever heard. Then they go and do stupid, selfish acts thinking that it’s ok. Those little traits we overlooked have now become huge mountains. And what happens after that? Well we fight… And argue… And cry a little… Then fight with our partners some more. Then all of the sudden we’re depressed and we think about leaving them.
The reason why we didn’t see it coming was because we believed so much that our dear lover would also be forever obsessed with us, that they are committed to our needs and would never do anything to hurt us. These thoughts are usually unrealistic because of the fact that… well… by nature, we humans are egocentric. Our world revolves around us. Even though we wouldn’t always admit that to ourselves. None of us would give everything we have, dropped all our feelings and become the slave to our lovers needs forever and ever. I mean… We can fake it for a little while but come on… none of us are that altruistic. The euphoria of the in-love experience only gives us the illusion.
Some couples believe that at the end of the in-love experience they only have two options. To leave their partner and find a new one because the old one wasn’t “the one”. Option two is staying in that relationship and putting up with everything and feeling more and more depressed as the days go by because “he’s changed”. Of course there are the relationships that are completely unhealthy altogether and if asked I’d tell them to get up and run for the hills! But ignoring those ones, fortunately… There is an option 3 for everyone else, and that is… Recognising that the in-love experience was a temporary phase of emotional high - and now it’s time to pursue what real love is with our partner.
Now this is what they call the learning curve in a relationship… This is what separates the men from the boys, the young loves from the true loves. This… Well to me anyway, is the good part.
It is finding out that real love is emotional in nature but not obsession. It is love that brings together reason and emotion. It involves the act of will, respect and requires discipline, and it recognises the need for personal growth. Our most basic emotional need isn’t to fall in love anymore but to be genuinely loved by one another. It doesn’t require the euphoria of being in love to keep the relationship going. When we we’re “obsessed and in-love” with our partners, we pushed ourselves to do things for them to gain their constant affection, like buying them gifts and flowers almost every weekend. Now however, we don’t do those things as much… But when we do them, it’s not to gain their appreciation… It’s just because we choose to be loving and give them what we think they deserve to feel. Not to get anything out of it in return. But we do things because we choose to be like that, not by force anymore but by nature. We can still run around and be our weird selves with our partners… But we also understand that if that doesn’t happen as much as it used to, it doesn’t mean they’ve fallen out of love with us. We understand that they just feel like being calm today. And we don’t blame them for that. We know they love us because they show it in their own way. Which may not always be in the way we want them to. But we know they love us all the same. And we love them just as much. You see, you don’t have to have the in-love experience to keep that fire in your relationship going, all you really needed in the end was each other. And realising that you could be in the biggest argument with them, be completely frustrated with them, but still know that they’re worth fixing it over and that when the arguments over and the tension has settled. You could easily be at peace with each other, be able to look at each other quietly and know that there’s no one in the world you’d rather be with. That is real love.
You are the first I come to when I have good news You are the first I come to when I have bad news You are the first I come to when I have funny stories to share You are the first I come to when I feel uncertain You are the first I come to when I want to laugh You are the first I come to when I want to cry You are the first I come to when I feel lost You are the first I come to when I feel dead to the world You are the first I come to when I plead for answers You are the first I come to when I need support You are the first I come to when I want to do stupid things You are the first I come to when I feel alone You are the first I come to when I want to smile You are the first I come to when I have a smile You are the first I come to… just to see you smile
You made me who I am, you know me more than I know myself, you helped me through thick and thin.
“There’s one thing a quote does that nothing and no one else can do… it can become a part of you. You may never meet the person who said it but that person is now a companion. Quotes help you get over pain, feel love, make you smile and laugh, and helps you through those though tough days when you think that no one knows what you’re going through.”—
“To let go isn’t to forget, not to think about, or ignore. It doesn’t leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting go isn’t about winning or losing. It’s not about pride and it’s not about how you appear, and it’s not obsessing or dwelling on the past. Letting go isn’t blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and doesn’t leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness. It’s not about giving in or giving up. Letting go isn’t about loss and it’s not about defeat. To let go is to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on. It is having an open mind confidence in the future. Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing. To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow. It’s about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will have soon gain. Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing up. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.”—
Love is a word. Love is an idea. Love is an emotion. Love is an excuse. Love is a moment. Love is everlasting. Love is alive. Love is personified. Love is untouchable. Love is tangible. Love is indescribable. Love is an existence.
Love is a way of life. Love is my way of life. I chase the space between its varying traits. I capitalize on its intentions and slumber beneath its riptide. I believe in love, limitless in all its forms, more than I believe in anything.